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Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-up's Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents | 
 enlarge | Author: Nina W. Brown
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
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Media: Paperback
Edition: 2
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Pages: 250
Shipping Weight (lbs): 6.6
Dimensions (in): 9 x 6 x 0.6
ISBN: 1572245611
Dewey Decimal Number: 158.24
EAN: 9781572245617
ASIN: 1572245611
Publication Date: April 2008
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Book Description
Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed, this major revision of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent. Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you'll discover that you're not helpless against your parent's behavior and that you needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfill your needs and expectations.
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 Not all so-called self-absorbed parents are narcissistic June 17, 2008
0 out of 15 found this review helpful
What is it about all these books being written about how parents were sooooo bad? Why does society expect parents to be perfect? Guess what? NO parent is perfect, because no human being is perfect. Yes, the Baby Boomer generation (which no doubt this books mostly talks about) was more self-absorbed than other generations, but not necessarily because of being narcissictic, but rather because of having problems of their own that could not be overcome.
But if those under 30, have the need to feel better about themselves by bashing those who raise them, then go ahead. But let's have books published giving parents equal time. I know of many parents who have done the best they could, but you would never know it by the way some children do turn out, and contrary to popular belief, it isn't always the parents' fault.
 It's all about my mother June 1, 2008
4 out of 4 found this review helpful
This book is written about my mother to a tee. It is reasurring that it is a personality disorder because I thought it was me that is crazy. I'm not crazy, but have been dealing with a NPD for my entire life and now that I realize the person I am dealing with. This will help me cope and strategize when she is near me. I now know to set my boundries to stay alive and well. Thank you. I would recommend this book to anyone that is dealing with a malignant narcissistic parent.
Many Books In One May 22, 2008
1 out of 7 found this review helpful
Upon reading some of the reviews written here, I am glad to see that this book was helpful to many. Dr. Brown is dealing with an incredibly complex subject, and tries to cover much ground in 200 pages. However,in going through it, I was struck not only by the author's ambitiousness in trying to define, clarify, sort out and enumerate the vast number of concepts, psychological terms and suggestions tangent to the issue of narcissism, but how confusing this must all be to the reader. Many ambiguous, generalized, inaccurate terms and definitions are thrown into this stew, stated here in an attempt to simplify the subject matter. However,it leaves a great deal of room for misconception.
If well-organized, this material easily could have been a few different books, along with a workbook. But, more disconcerting is the meandering assortment of topics thrown in with no apparent logic. It is way too much inaccurate information trying to pass itself off as "psychologically"correct and helpful, but in reality is a hodge-podge. The "dumbing down"of the concept of narcissism and its malignant effects upon
the child-parent relationship, just further contribute to what Susan Jacoby aptly describes as "the Un-Minding of America". Perhaps Ms. Brown might stick to simpler
issues and leave the tough ones for professionals more adept at accurate, well-developed psychological formulations for the layman to absorb.
Eyeopening May 9, 2008
5 out of 6 found this review helpful
As the good friend of a child psychologist who buys everything published in the field, I saw this book at her house and picked it up, never having given much thought to the subject before. This is one of those eye-opening books that makes you realize there are more narcissists in the world who damage their kids by being absorbed with their own activities, their own lives outside their children, etc than may be realized. Being the child of a narcissist can lead to becoming one yourself, and I think this book is really an important step in identifying parents who are this way, and recognizing the potential to become this way yourself.
A "how to" guide for overcoming "destructive narcissism" of parents April 27, 2008
4 out of 4 found this review helpful
There is a lot written on the subjects of parents and the different forms of abuse they can intentionally or unintentionally inflict. This book, which is published by a publisher that specializes in very good, hands-on, psychology self-help, is not a theoretical kind of work. It does help you understand by taking you through things one step at a time rather than depending on you to just grasp a complex idea which may be "too close to home."
The author distinguishes between healthy narcissism and what she calls DNP--the destructively narcissistic person. The book is actually useful whether the DNP in question is a parent or someone else very close in your life...but it is aimed specifically at the more difficult problem of the DNP parent which, I suspect, many people will be surprised to recognize. The overly self-absorbed parent is the parent who is also not there for the child, not providing support, and who always, just always makes themselves the center of things through their own dramatics and theatrics. If you've been there, you know.
I like the semi-workbook format, though it doesn't work for everybody. But if you want to try to understand this and grapple with it on your own, this is definitely the book.
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