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Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children With Severe Behaviors | 
 enlarge | Author: Heather T. Forbes
Publisher: Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC
Category: Book
Buy New: $19.95
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Avg. Customer Rating:  40 reviews
Sales Rank: 18614
Media: Paperback
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 127
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.5
Dimensions (in): 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.5
ISBN: 0977704009
EAN: 9780977704002
ASIN: 0977704009
Publication Date: February 10, 2006
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Product Description
Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control covers in detail the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters childrens behavioral responses. The first four chapters help parents and professionals clearly understand the neurological research behind the basic model given in this book, deemed, The Stress Model. While scientifically based in research, it is written in an easy to understand and easy to grasp format for anyone working with or parenting children with severe behaviors. The next seven chapters are individually devoted to seven behaviors typically seen with attachment-challenged children. These include lying, stealing, hoarding and gorging, aggression, defiance, lack of eye contact, and yes, even a chapter that talks candidly about how parents appear hostile and angry when they work to simply maintain their families from reaching complete states of chaos. Each of these chapters talks in depth on these specific behaviors and gives vivid and contrasting examples of how this love-based approach works to foster healing and works to develop relationships, as opposed to the fear-based traditional attachment parenting approaches that are being advocated in todays attachment field. The authors end with a Parenting Bonus Section. True testimonials from parents who have been able to make significant changes in their homes with this model of parenting, giving real-life examples of how they have been able to find the healing, peace, and love that they had been seeking prior to working through the techniques outlined in this book.
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 Beyond COnsequences, Logic and Control: A Love Based Approach Helping Attachemnt Challenged Chidlren with Severe Behaviors August 29, 2008
I enjoyed reading this book because the language is simple. It is not techinical but straight to basics. It demonstrates perceptions we have that chilren owe us as parents. Traumatized children have a different thought process. It validates the behavior and demonstatrates clear ways of thinking and processing so that the child as well as parent feel safe to rebuild a relationship/trust that was lost. The reader must be open to the process of thinking in a different manner. The techniques take time but the process helps to ease our fears as well as the child's. What we fail to realize that trauma is based on perception, we can feel empathy for a child who has lived in trauma. Just because we make things look good and feel that we are doing our best, that trauma still lives in that child and it will resurface thorugh time. Even for ourselves. I would reccomend this book to parents who adopt or even have chidlren that are ODD or angry.
No to tough love August 22, 2008
We have been so indoctrinated with the "Tough Love" approach when our children get tough that it is hard for us to believe a different way can work. Heather makes us look at the risks of tough love and gives us good reason to look to the fear beneath the child's behavior and see that tough love only increases that fear. The child needs connection not disconnection in order to feel safe and once again regulated.
 Another Get Rich Scheme by Bryan Post August 20, 2008
1 out of 3 found this review helpful
NONE OF THIS ILL-DEFINING PARENTING METHOD HAS BEEN VALIDLY RESEARCHED.
This is a rehash of Bryan Post's parenting programs, essentially based on the simplistic notion that if a parent merely acknowledges (or presumes) a child's emotions which are supposedly connected with a particular bad behavior, then the child will never repeat that bad behavior ever again; nothing more is really necessary. Thus the title "Beyond Consequences, Logic..." Others might suggest that children are more complex beings than that and need more nuanced and flexible interactions with their parents.
The parenting method in this book derives from "Dr." Bryan Post's longtime association with Martha Welch, M.D., author of "Holding Time." Welch is infamous for recommending and teaching highly abusive parenting methods (e.g., coercive restraint) and for her misconceptions about child development. For instance, she claimed to cure autism with forced eye contact and coercive restraint. Post took some of her wrong-headed notions and called them his own. Post recently declared he hasn't used Holding Therapy since 2001, but he hasn't denounced his past work, beliefs, or Welch, and some parents report that he still does some "mat work" with parents and children where they are roughly encouraged to work out their rage.
"Dr." Post claims to have a doctorate from Columbus University (note similarity in name to Columbia University), which is nothing more than a diploma mill not recognized by any accrediting agency. The Oklahoma Board of Licensed Social Workers disapproved of Post's use of the titles "Dr." and "Ph.D." Post had, until recently, a website selling "Secrets of the Wealthy Social Worker."
I would advise this book be avoided.
Good for all Parents & Teachers to read August 11, 2008
0 out of 1 found this review helpful
I bought this book after hearing others speak about it. I think every person who works with children in some capacity or is a parent should read this book. Yes it is primarily geared to those kids with more severe behavior challenges, but every kid at some point "acts out". This book (and her website) give great insight on why kids act out and how to handle it instead of yelling or punishing in traditionals ways. No more time outs! Try a time in :o) The reason I don't give it the 5th star is because I think it could use a few more "how to handle scenarios".
"Dr." Post June 5, 2008
7 out of 10 found this review helpful
Since I purchased and read this book, I have found out that Bryan Post's credentials are suspect. His PhD is from a college (Columbus University School of Public Administration) that is basically a diploma "mill" where anyone can get a "PhD" for a price. He has been reprimanded by the Oklahoma State Board of Licensing and forced to use a disclaimer in all his advertising. (All these facts can be found by searching online) In my opinion while Bryan Post has some very good ideas and is a dynamic public speaker however I cannot trust him based on these facts.
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