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All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right | 
 enlarge | Authors: Ellen Fein, Sherrie Schneider
Publisher: Grand Central Publishing
Category: Book
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Sales Rank: 3153
Media: Mass Market Paperback
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Pages: 400
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Dimensions (in): 7.5 x 4.1 x 1
ISBN: 0446618799
Dewey Decimal Number: 152
EAN: 9780446618793
ASIN: 0446618799
Publication Date: January 1, 2007
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 Good reading if you really want to get hurt, hurt deeply September 21, 2008
This book is greatly written and shows the high level of skill the author has in manipulation and NLP.
However it fails to deliver. The book is perfect if you want to boost your ego by having man chase you but it doesn't have any practical value about how to get Mr. Right even less on how to retain him.
This book fails to follow the basic "golden rule" - treat others the way you want them to treat you. How can you expect someone to be honest and true when you, in the first place, gained them through manipulation? How do you plan on maintaining a sustainable relationship after so much insincerity?
This book heavily exploits the Ego and animal instincts in man, which can only lead you to attract this time of man. After all it makes it be a game or a competition and you have to ask yourself what is the prize? Well the answer is the prize is not you, at least not who you really are. But in most cases the prize will be winning the game whatever they define that to be. When they accomplish it you'll be just history.
Or to put it in more specific words you are most likely to attract guys with big Ego and most likely they are going to play you by "The Rules" and when you genuinely believe they are so in love they'll f*** you and leave. Leaving you broken hearted.
In other words there is no way you can attract self respecting man that have brains in this way. (The only exception is if they read the book as well and play by it).
The author very skillfully plays on women fears, subtly mentioning pregnancy and STDs. However this is to be expected the whole book is on how to manipulate man, why not manipulate you too to buy another copy?!
This book is somewhat offensive to me by seeing how it actually is trying to brainwash people by playing with their fears and Ego.
The book clearly shows how egoistic that author is and their hate of man. Most of the advices it give are comparable if not worse than dog training. I bet no one treats their dog like this and she advises you to treat this way the prospective father of you children.
 Excellent September 16, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
I am currently working the tips of the trade right now as I write this note. I have to honestly say that I believe that the tips are working. I'm feeling less stressed, snags in the relationship are seen very quickly and identified accurately as far as who is causing them, instead of concentrating on the other person and what their issues might be, all you have to do, is "The Rules".
The Best Review for The Rules September 11, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
Have you noticed that most of the negative comments about this book are written by men? Well, there's a reason for that. Men don't want to feel "manipulated" or part of some strategic plot. Understandable. However, guess what? This book isn't written for them! It's written for women, only. No matter how hard men try, they will never know what it's like to be a WOMAN and not asked out, or to have men constantly ask you out, but then they all lose interest. It's too painful, so let's give ourselves an honest break.
These Rules aren't to deceive anyone, contrary to what some people may say. They're actually to transform and empower a woman. I'll admit, if a normally talkative/boisterous woman acts quiet just to get her man, then she's not being honest and that's wrong. The authors, Ellen and Sherrie, do not support that kind of behavior. They actually want women to work on their dating skills, like someone working on their cooking or writing skills.
How would a man feel if a woman frequently called him at 2am in the morning with her emotional issues? She talked too much and wouldn't get off the phone when a man has to work the next day? She quits all her extracurricular activities/hobbies just so she can pursue a man? Shows up at a man's doorstep one weekend without calling first and expects him to entertain her (even though he may have already had plans)? She nags or tells a man what to do, like his mother would?
Women don't really do that, right? Wrong! Heck, I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I used to do some of those things myself, and I know PLENTY of other women that still do. That's the point! Even if some of the methods in the book seem a bit extreme, it's helping women (especially ones with low-self esteem or can't seem to get/keep a man) learn important skills of respect (a man's time) and about having a life of their own, which is very attactive.
My story: People were saying, "You're so smart, attractive, and talented...how come you're not married?" I definitely had men pursuing me, but then they seemed to ALWAYS lose interest. I used to think I was cursed or God hated me. Then a friend suggested The Rules book and it turned my love life around. Suddenly I learned how to keep a man by not being so obnoxious and pursuing him too heavily, and giving him the space a respect a man deserves. And it wasn't deception either. I worked hard to make these skills truly part of my life and not some false front to deceive anyone.
And guess what? I married an amazing man! He's tall, handsome, very intelligent (PhD), has a great job, superb personality and wit, and very much a gentleman. After his divorce, he seriously had women throwing themselves at him and pursing HIM! He would initially like these women, but they seemed so clingy and needy after awhile that if turned him off. Then when he met me, I was pursing an intense career, dating lots of other amazing men, and didn't have time to spend hours on the phone/computer bearing my soul to some stranger. He thought my confidence (which was sincere) was amazing and pursued me vigorously. Needless to say, he won my heart and the rest is history.
So, some may scoff, but honestly women, read the book and take it with a grain of salt. If something doesn't apply to you or feel right, test it out. If it doesn't work, don't do. Use your head and common sense. But there are lots of GREAT suggestions. And remember, this book IS NOT FOR MEN! Good luck, ladies, and I hope you marry the man of your dreams like I (finally) did!
 Entertaining but Shouldn't Be Taken Seriously September 6, 2008
1 out of 3 found this review helpful
I read this book years ago and while entertaining, I found it to be outdated and even insulting in some ways. The book pretty much just tells you to manipulate men and then you will get what you want as a woman. Awful! This book sounds like it was marketed to women who were born in 1920. I don't know too many women who wind up having long term successful relationships by manipulating men and being someone other than who they are. Trying to be something you're not works for 5 minutes... then the real you comes out and the man you're with all of a sudden wonders where the other woman he originally met went.
Do not take this book too seriously. If you want an authentic relationship then you must be your authentic self. If you just want to jump out of one superficial relationship into another, then go ahead, play all the silly games you want, manipulate to your hearts content and read The Rules. :(
good read August 21, 2008
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
very informative book. will work out great for people who dont have much experience with dating.
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