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 enlarge | Author: Laura Schlessinger
Publisher: Harper Paperbacks
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  118 reviews
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Pages: 208
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Dimensions (in): 7.9 x 5.3 x 0.7
ISBN: 0060520620
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.81
EAN: 9780060520625
ASIN: 0060520620
Publication Date: September 1, 2006
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 Plain and Simple Advice August 13, 2008
I read this book without any previous knowledge of who the author was or her background/beliefs/credentials; without reading the reviews and not even being recommended to read it. I read it because it seemed to have useful advice for a woman like me who was not sure what she was doing wrong to her marriage but wanted to fix it.
I do not in any way consider myself conservative, I am not religious, I am not even Christian! Yet, the points made in this book opened my mind to what was wrong and helped me to change my attitude in a way that improved my marriage Immediately...and has helped many, many times since. I keep this book close and read parts of it whenever I find myself feeling selfish, stubborn or bitterly discontent with life and home.
The advice is simple and easy to follow and puts the role of a housewife with children into better perspective. It helped me to change my mind and be the wife I would want if I were in my husbands position. In return, the rewards have been overflowing and I am happier than ever.
Be open to the message and forget where it's from. I don't particularly like the author (now that I know more about her) but my opinion is this, I don't have to like the members of a band to enjoy their song and I don't have to like the actors to enjoy a movie, so why discount this book just because of who wrote it? Read it and improve your marriage.
I love you and I love me August 6, 2008
I am a wife and mother and I totally agree with Dr. Laura's assessments in this book. Other book that helps me about this topic isI Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't
Dr Laura August 3, 2008
Amazon delivery was quick, the book is even better than I thought it would be. I was looking for a way to turn my mother's attitude around, and Dr. Laura has the courage to tell it like it is, I really took her words to heart.
 The 1950's Called - They Want Their Schtick Back July 30, 2008
5 out of 9 found this review helpful
First of all, I must admit that I was once a Dr. Laura listener. Yes, I was. I hang my head in shame. But hear me out - I was young, I thought she was a hoot and I swear on a stack of Camille Paglia that she was NOT this insane yet. She slammed people for turning their backs on their gay relatives. She was pragmatic, realistic and actually, once or twice, was kind. Then my radio station dropped her and the years have passed between us. On a lark, I looked her up today and found THIS.
Seriously? Who buys this drivel? According to the pseudo-doc men are nothing more than sandwich chomping cavemen who want to copulate and sleep. Women are somehow able to control these caveman by spending the rest of their lives (and their sense of self) flattering him, giving in to his sexual desires no matter their own needs, subjugating every part of their married life with his needs in mind only.
What woman would do this? What man would want this? Perhaps, if you feel that this will help your marriage, you have a bigger problem than can be solved by a radio shock jock.
It's not a mystery that two people (in any relationship - platonic, married, living together, gay, straight) are in better harmony when they respect each other, listen to each other and strive to treat each other kindly and with love. That's it. If you are one of the millions of simpering women who read this tripe in order to "save" your marriage, I don't even know you and I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that you have bigger problems than your huband needing three squares a day and some hot sex.
If you really feel like your marriage is dying - TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND. If he ignores you then perhaps the marriage isn't worth saving. Why is your next response to turn yourself into some Stepford Wife, mindless, "yes, dear" clone who gives up any sense of independent self to wait on a man hand and foot?
I bet a lot of you smug married ladies are now tsking over my stupdity. Perhaps that's why she's not married, you think, pausing to admire your perfect wedding ring. She's just a man-hating feminist who would never stoop to show a man that she adores him and worships him. In that case, I'll never change your mind.
But let's say that I've never wasted a moment's sleep trying to figure out how to "win" a man or "keep" a man. Having a relationship enhances my life; it does not define it. I have had terrific relationships; I'm still friends with many of my exes. I have a wonderful relationship with a man who I adore and who adores me - but we also treat each other as individuals. We have separate interests and different outlooks and we listen to each other. I don't base my self-esteem on the success of this relationship or on his estimation of me. And I fear that's what so many of the people who buy books like these do - their identity is wrapped up in being "married," in being "a wife." They suppress their own identities to shadow the man in their life. They give up their own desires to fullfill his. And, disgustingly, this sort of book encourages that sort of behavior. It glorifies it. It celebrates it.
Sure, your marriage improved because of these "skills" - what person wouldn't be immediately excited that someone was spending all their time doting on them, loving them and stroking their ego? Heck, even I'd fall for it - FOR AWHILE. But when your husbands realize that you've stopped being you - being the woman he first fell in love with - you're back at square one.
Don't waste money on this book. If you're unhappy, sit down with your spouse, tell him/her you're unhappy. Tell them why. If they don't care, leave. If they agree, figure out TOGETHER how to fix it. Stop relying on these pop-culture answers.
Plus, it's not even well-written, which is the worst thing I can write about a book. She regurgitates radio conversations, caller comments and throws in some sound bites. No effort at all. You'd be better to read Kahlil Gilbran. Read that. Think about that. Forget this.
Best manual for women who want to understand their men July 18, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
I give this book (along with a similar book by another author targeted to men) to young engaged couples (and recommend it widely to others).
A lot of the men read her book. They rave about how well she gets it. She says "men are simple creatures". The men agree (we are simple creatures, truley we are). She explains how to interact successfully with men. The men say she has it exactly right.
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